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The Longest Shortest Time

Posted by Carren Jao Pineda |

I've been incommunicado for many months now. Those who know me well know it's because I've entered into a new chapter of my life: motherhood. While it hasn't been all rainbows and roses, the experience, as many harrowing ones often do, has taught me a lot about myself and my own capacity as a human being.

Being a parent, especially in the early days, is very, very, very difficult. Now, when I see moms and dads in the park or in the grocery, I silently think, "What heroes, they all are." The experience isn't always pretty either. In fact, it's probably 87% not pretty, but we're surviving anyway.

One way we do that is by finding a community of people that will remind us that it's okay not to be picture perfect. I've been fortunate enough to find that in the actual real, people friends I've made, the mommy groups I've joined, but also this amazing podcast that will re-launch in January.

Those who need a dose of reality in parenting, tune in to: the Longest Shortest Time, "a bedside companion for parents who want to hear in the middle of the night (or day—what’s the difference, really?) that they are not alone." It's a show that's featured single motherhood, a mom who has an unusual way of putting her child to bed, one about the emotional pitfalls of breastfeeding. The show is real in a way that not many parenting outlets are. There is no judgement (which is refreshing as well.)

via the Longest Shortest Time
One of my favorite episodes is this one with 99% Invisible's Roman Mars, talking about raising twin boys. He says of the experience, "Being a parent of multiples is like the worst thing that can happen to you that you wouldn't wish away if you had a wish you could wish away. It's that hard but you'd never want it to be different." Even if you're not raising twins, I bet it feels that way too.

To this, the show's creator Hilary Frank writes, "Motherhood is not always giggles and hand-clapping and learning to walk. But things do change and often they get better. And the things you’re going through, even if they’re not in the books, they happen to other people, too. In this blog and podcast you can hear other moms—and sometimes dads—tell stories about their longest shortest times. And maybe, in your darkest hours (both literally and figuratively), you’ll hear a voice that reminds you that this part is only the beginning of the rest of your life with your new little person."

Read to the show's dramatic beginnings and listen to the podcast.


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